I live in beautiful Walnut Creek, California. The town is in a little valley about 25 miles east of San Francisco. There is a lovely mountain just east of us called Mt. Diablo. Historically, it’s place of wonder and magic to Native Americans. Has been for centuries.
Years ago, during my marathon/triathlon days, I used to train on its many trails, sometimes running to the top. To the east I could see the Sierra Mountains and to the west I could see San Francisco and beyond. During my early sex addiction recovery days it was a quiet refuge for me to feel it’s “magic” and be still and peaceful in my thoughts.
On some training days, in early mornings, I ran to the top of another hill just west of Walnut Creek. It had a beautiful view of town as well as scenic Mt. Diablo. I would often stop at the top, watch the sun come up, be still, and soak in my good fortune for living in such a beautiful place.
One morning in 1995, just before finishing graduate school, I decided to take a camera and tripod along with me on my run. When I got to the top of the hill, just before sunrise I set up my camera and tripod to get a picture of the sun rising up from behind Mt. Diablo. On this day I felt especially grateful for my sex addiction recovery, my upcoming educational accomplishments, and my own very real life. I knew that I was going to be a sexual addictions counselor and I was looking forward to the challenges ahead.
My current best-selling book, “Breaking the Cycle,” was just a bunch of thoughts scribbled on notepads and paper napkins. But, those thoughts and scribblings were the catalysts for my sex addiction recovery as well as my late-in-life new career. At that moment, on that hill, I decided to try and “capture the sun,” in my hand — as a symbol of my appreciation for my recovery. This was also an effort to create a reminder and commitment to using the power of Mt. Diablo and the rising sun as a catalyst for the gifts that I had worked hard for and received.
This picture was used as the first page of my master’s thesis with the quote: “A mighty flame follows a tiny spark,” by Dante. Well, I guess it worked. My book’s been a best-seller for the last six years and my practice, Neulia Compulsion Solutions, is a success. Most of all, we have helped many men create their own “mighty flames from tiny sparks.” I’m most proud of that.